It just about crushed me the other day when i found out that Cruz had been in trouble for talking too much during class, distracting others, and leading other kids into doing the same. Not becuse I thought it was a terrible thing, but because I knew where the blame was going. I never had a teacher-parent interaction that didn't include that. I never had a report card that didn't indicate that. Worst of all, your mother never had that on her report card.
Dad is to blame. I like attention. In fact, I love it. I lovc being at the center of the story, the attagonist, and the star. Life is boring when you are entertaining yourself. I will warn you now that if you don't learn to control it, it will be a part of your life forever. I am 33 now, and every time we get around a group of people your mother accuses me of it. So here are my thoughts.
1. Learn to control it- You don't need to be the star of every show. People grow tired of it, and can resent it.
2. Respect your teachers- They need you to not be an asshole, becuase if you are, then everyone will be. Some of your teachers will be great people that just want a little help, or at least not a hinderence. Take your current teacher, Ms. Dana, for example. She is in charge of 20 4 years olds. When you are a punk, it means others will follow you making her job harder. She is a great young lady. I wish her the best, and by that I mean not having to deal with 20 4 year olds. She does it with grace, but man, that has to be awful.
3. To thine self be true- I think that is Shakespeare... but your mom is the English teacher. Look, I want to tell you that you need to tone it down, fall in line, and get with the program. My problem is that I never did. I still don't. I don't feel bad about it at all. I like to be at the center of the story, and I like to have eyes on me. It's just about the best feeling in the world to me to have a crowd in the palm of my hand. It's part of what makes me succesful and it's part of what I love about being me.
*side note- people hate phrase like "what I love about being me". I think that is because they have never let themselves be happy with who they are. I like me. I think I am pretty awesome in fact. Is that arrogant, self centered, or proud? Probably. I don't care. I would take "liking me" over "self loathing any day."
Long story short... try to find the happy middle between being a clown and loving a crowd. You are going to offend some people along the way, and you are going to have some good times. I can't bring myself to tell you to try to be a wallflower. Some lights are meant to shine. I hope you figure out when they should sooner than I have. It will suit you well.
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